Sharing a room – an update!

You may have read last month that we were making preparations to move the boys into the same bedroom. Our main reason for this was – and maybe it was a bit selfish on our part – that we wanted our bedroom back! After having a child in there for nearly three years (in a cot, and then a co-sleeping toddler until N was born) we just wanted ‘our’ bit of space back. It meant us giving up the biggest bedroom but that was a fair sacrifice to make!

When the day came, my brother-in-law came to help with the swapping furniture around and after umm-ing and ahh-ing about where it should all go in its new place, it was all done & dusted after two or three hours. After totally emptying my huge free standing wardrobe in order to move rooms, I couldn’t be bothered with swapping the stuff around from the built in ones so hubby’s stuff was still in the boys’ bedroom for a while, and J’s in ours – in fact, the boys’ hats and gloves are still in what is now hubby’s wardrobe! (You know how it goes, ask a man to do something (hammer a few nails in) and they’ll do it…eventually! I may as well just do it myself, actually…).

The first night of them being in the same room I was absolutely dreading as N goes to bed half an hour earlier than J at the minute (so J gets some time with us just to himself) and J isn’t the quietest at bed time so I was expecting J to wake him up. It actually went quite smoothly. J did make a little bit of noise at first but when I whispered a couple of times that N was asleep, he quietened down. He’s been pretty good about it, other than the occasional time when he’s in one of those moods where he just wants to annoy everyone! It so happens that when N is asleep he’s actually quite a heavy sleeper so he hasn’t managed to wake him up – thank goodness, as he’s an absolute nightmare to get back to sleep.

Another thing I was unsure about was one waking the other up in the middle of the night as they both do still wake up occasionally. I was expecting it to be N waking up in all honesty, but the first few nights he slept through until morning and it was J who woke up! When he was in a room on his own he had a baby gate on his door (which has now moved to the shared room) and when he awoke in the night he would stand there shouting mummy or daddy – I didn’t want that to wake N up so decided to just leave the handle up a little as he could then open it and just come in our room. It wouldn’t be the first time that we had woken up to find him in bed with us – in fact once before he came in our room and was stood by the bed as I woke up, he scared me half to death! Obviously with N still being in his cot he can’t just get out so moans or cries when he wakes up, but that hasn’t managed to wake J up either.

So, after my initial panic about tougher bed times and sleepless nights, it has gone much better than I expected it to, and it’s great to finally have our room free of baby things! Apart from the baby, occasionally…

Preparing for sharing a bedroom

So we’ve finally made the decision to move the boys into the same bedroom. We knew it would have to happen at some point but have been holding off. We only live in a small 2 bed flat and currently we have the bigger bedroom. If we were to move N into J’s room it just wouldn’t work so we’re going to be swapping our rooms around too (though we won’t be decorating – maybe just a lick of paint – as we hope to move this year anyway! Not that our bedroom has been decorated since we moved in two and a half years ago anyway, it’s still a state…but I digress!). J’s bed and N’s cot, plus all of their toys, will fit better in what is currently our room anyway.
The worry we have is how to go about it. We’ve decided to do it later this week as hubby has the day off so we can move furniture around, so I have a few days to prepare myself for possibly longer sleepless nights! Bed times at the moment consist of N (nearly one) going to bed with his bottle at 6.30pm so we have half an hour alone with J (nearly three) before he goes at 7pm. The thing is, J still has us in with him until he goes to sleep, and sometimes he is a noisy soul before giving in so I’m worried about him waking N up at bed time!
The other thing is that they both still occasionally wake up in the night. If N wakes up then we can get to him quick before he wakes J up as his cot is right next to our bed, and half the time he then ends up in our bed. If J wakes up then one of us goes into him and usually ends up falling asleep in his bed. On the very odd occasion he will also come in our bed. But when J does wake up, he stands at his gate shouting for us, sometimes he will be crying. I’m worried that when they’re in the same room if he does this, it will definitely wake N up. But on the other hand I’m hoping that they will maybe sleep better being in the same bedroom.
Then again, it might all just go to pot!
Have you been in a similar situation? How did you go about it and deal with it?

Little man N at 4 months old

So here it is. N is now 4 months old. A third of a year. I said it last month – I will probably say it every month. Time. Slow. Down. Please.
It’s amazing to see how he is growing each month, and about now he is developing his own little personality. He is becoming so cheeky already. When he is going to sleep – or more like we’re trying to get him to sleep – he will eventually nod off but this is just a tease. A couple of minutes later he will open his eyes, look up at you, and give the cheekiest little grin! You can’t help but smile back at him though. Little monkey.
He has had his 16 week vaccinations. This time he only had the one in each leg, and not the oral one. I think he has been worse with them each time, unlike his brother who seemed to get better. Though he hasn’t seemed as bad afterwards. At least that’s it now until he turns one!
He isn’t sleeping as long in the day now. His naps range from 30 – 90 minutes long and then he’s awake for 2-3 hours in between. Though recently he’s sometimes been awake for as long as 4.5 hours! He is still (mostly) sleeping through the night. He goes down between 7-8 pm and generally wakes up between 5-6 am, has his bottle, a kick & a chatter, then goes back to sleep. He will wake in the night on the odd occasion but we can’t really complain. If he does then he usually comes in with us. since he has been sleeping through, he hasn’t spent as much time in our bed – I miss it!
He is constantly trying to sit himself up. I mentioned in his 3 month update that he would pull himself up if we held his hands – he is so much better at that now and so happy with himself when he does it. But now, he also tries to sit himself up from laying down. His little head and legs come up off the floor with a few grunts!
He has started rolling, which I wasn’t expecting as he just did it one day out of the blue without even trying. He managed to roll front to back, but he still hasn’t mastered back to front. It will come with time though, his brother didn’t even roll for the first time until 5 months!
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Little man N at 3 months old

I can’t believe N is 3 months old already. That’s a quarter of a year! No, I refuse to believe it. Time must slow down now! 

N is gaining weight steadily now and heading along the 75th centile – he was on the 25th when he was born! When he turned 3 months he was around the 15 lb mark, so he has more than doubled his birth weight and is a proper chunk now, just like his brother was! He’s in his his brothers 3-6 months clothes now and even some of those are getting small for him!

He obviously loves his milk, and now has 8oz at a time, every 3-4 hours still – any less and he screams blue murder! But then because he’s so greedy, he brings half of it back up, usually all down my chest… lovely!

He has also had his second lot of vaccinations. I think these ones went worse than the first ones, he just wouldn’t stop crying and wouldn’t even have his bottle to calm him down, poor little fella. Only one more lot to go now until he turns 1, thank goodness!

I mentioned in his last update that he was co-sleeping a lot. We haven’t done as much since then, I think that’s mainly because he has started sleeping through the night! He goes down with J around 7 pm and then goes until 4.30 am, but usually goes back to sleep after his bottle. If he does wake in the middle of the night for a feed he usually goes straight back down without a fuss, I guess he’s what they’d call a “good baby” (I hate that!). Sometimes though if whoever had fed him is too tired to even get back out of bed, he’ll snuggle in with us, which I am glad of really as I’ve mentioned before, I do love co-sleeping.

The poor wee soul has started teething already, he has had a lot of hand chewing going on, and is very dribbly. We have an amber anklet on the way and are currently reviewing some teething gel so hopefully we’ll be able to take away the pain a bit, it’s awful seeing him like he is at such a young age.

We are getting proper chuckles from him now, and he’s a chatty boy! He loves to talk to himself in the mirror on his play mat. He loves us bouncing him from knee to knee and gives us some proper chesty laughs, it is oh so cute. He also loves us blowing raspberries on his belly and cheeks. I forgot how cute the “doing funny things to make them chuckle” baby stage is!

He is getting a strong boy now and will sit himself up if he is laid down and we hold his hands. He’s not so keen on tummy time (his brother never really was either so took what felt an age to roll over) but when he has it, he loves to hold his head up to have a good look around. Which leads me to say he hates being laid down now, he much prefers sitting up as he is so nosy!

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Transition from the cot bed

A few weeks ago we made the decision to convert little man’s cot bed into a bed (though we have only taken one side off as he will be getting a full size single when baby needs this). He hadn’t started climbing out, but we were having issues with him going to bed and his bedtime and wanted to get him into some kind of routine before baby arrives. Although if he has nap, especially late in the afternoon falling asleep in the car or something, he just will not go to sleep early no matter what! He doesn’t usually nap though, he hasn’t done since just after he turned 1.

Our usual routine went like this – there was none! 

He was such a nightmare to get to bed on his own and would usually go to bed when we went and then co-sleep with us all night. Anyone who knows me knows I love co-sleeping but it was just getting too uncomfortable for me and I couldn’t actually sleep at all. 

If he did go in his own bed, it would be after falling asleep on either of us with his bottle. And sometimes that didn’t even work because as soon as you put him down (having to lower him down) he would most likely wake straight up and then not go back to sleep, so he would just end up in with us anyway. 

So the reason we converted his cot bed into a bed, was so that it might feel a bit more like ours and he would go to sleep in it and stay in it a bit longer – if not all night. To add to the big bed ‘feel’ we also bought him a proper duvet and a pillow. 

For the first 3 nights, he still had his bottle with us, and then we would put him in his bed, but it was easier because we could just slide him in. He slept in there ALL night! And then he got ill. So he started coming in with us again as it was just easier. 


When he was better, we decided that giving him his bottle in bed might be easier – if he fell asleep with it, that is. One of us sat with him though as I think he prefers someone to be there. 


He fell asleep. Miracle.

Ever since then he has gone to sleep in his own bed. At a reasonable time too – between 7pm & 8pm. I cannot actually remember the last time this happened. Sometimes though, he does still wake in the night and I wake up to find him in our bed – I must get a gate on his door! 

But I am just so glad now that he has a proper bedtime routine, as this is what was stressing me out and upsetting me the most. As well as him being incredibly grumpy because he was so obviously tired, I would often be in tears as we never got any downtime to relax or time to ourselves in the evening, but now we do, almost every night.

Thanks, little man. (Please keep it up!).