|Yes, that is a photo of my toilet.|
I thought it would be fun to ask J (for both Mummy & Daddy), though he did seem to have a reoccurring theme – the boy is obsessed with that word! I think he was just being a bit silly really…but it still makes me chuckle!
Questions about Mummy
1. What is something mum always says to you? – Poo
2. What makes you happy? – Poo make me happy
Yet again I’m late with this update as yet again it’s almost time for the next one, in another week. J & his brother are totally siphoning my energy at the moment so I just can’t keep up. Never mind!
I’ve posted before how he had behavioural problems at nursery but recently he has been getting a good report when I collect him; I’m thinking maybe the Pitstop we have been attending has done some magic on him, but then I think well he is pretty much still just the same at home! Maybe they are dealing better with him than I am, after all they are trained in dealing with children whereas I just make it up as I go along, ha!
One of the issues that started recently is at bedtime. It literally takes two of us to get him to bed as he just does not want to go and becomes violent toward us. On one of the worst nights it took over an hour and in that time he kicked, screamed, pulled my hair, poked our eyes, continually demanded food just to waste time, and asked to go live with other family members; other times we have also been bitten and punched. In all honesty, it really has started to take its toll on me and I sometimes wish I was somewhere else during one of these episodes. Despite all of this, he is still a brilliant little helper! He is just like Jekyll & Hyde sometimes…
I mentioned last time that we’d had a little progress with potty/toilet training and in fact there has been a little more progression since then. At the beginning of last month, he started doing most of his wee’s on the toilet both at nursery and home – still no poo though! I was very proud of him that day he decided to go to the toilet at home without any prompting from me.
His conversational skills are also progressing brilliantly and I have to share one of the conversations we had on the walk home from nursery recently:
Me: “Come on baby, let’s go home”
J: “I’m a baby”
Me: “Well no, you’re not really a baby, but you’ll always be Mummy’s baby”
J: “You’re my baby Mummy”
He has also started calling his brother “My Noah” and will hold his hand, although sometimes N just doesn’t want to!
Books – The Three Little Pigs
Over J’s last few updates (well over the last year or so in fact, on & off) I have written about his potty training progress. He started potty training last year when we thought he was showing an interest but he was really sporadic with it and so we just left it. Just before Christmas he had started showing an interest again and so Nanna bought him a Thomas Tank musical potty which seemed to do the trick, and he finally had his first wee on it just before he turned three!
Ever since then we have really encouraged him with using the ‘big boy’ toilet and though he isn’t completely consistent yet, he does a lot of his wee’s on there. He has a step and a toilet seat which I think helps as he can do it himself and it makes him feel more grown up. He mostly wears pants during the day; he still has the occasional accident but we don’t make a huge fuss about it when he does.
Previously, I was adamant that I wasn’t going to use pull up pants with him as I believed that it would just confuse him, but wearing a nappy wasn’t really helping with him going to the toilet so we started on them and now he wears them at night and if we’re going on a journey where there won’t be a toilet for while. We could take his potty but he still has occasions when he forgets that he has pants on until it’s too late, and I don’t fancy washing his car seat cover that often!
We had really been encouraging him to do a poo on the toilet as well but we weren’t really getting anywhere. Now I’m not sure if this was a fluke also, but on the last day of our recent holiday he did it! I got really excited, everyone really praised him, and he was so proud of himself, but he hasn’t done one on there since. I do ask him regularly if he needs the loo but sometimes he will say no or just refuses. I think I need to see if there is any time pattern as to when he poo’s so we can try and get him to sit on the toilet.
I must admit, I thought he would be toilet, or at least potty trained by now as most of his peers are; but I’m not putting too much pressure on it and you never know, we might be fully there by his fourth birthday! (I hope it’s easier with N!)
It seems like forever since I shared J’s last update; maybe because that one was pretty much on time and this one is a bit late! I feel like I shouldn’t be calling him a toddler any more as he feels so grown up now. Though he does begin school next year so I guess I should maybe call him a pre-schooler instead?
He has been going to nursery now for over a year though we have been paying for that so it’s only been one half day a week, but now he’s three he has started receiving his 3 year funding and he now goes 1.5 days a week. He really loves having a full day and even though his last key worker has now left, he’s already really attached to his new one and he has so much fun. It’s a bit strange being without him for a full day though! He’s still being a great little helper at home and as well as washing up he also wants to help put the dishes away, he cleans the table, puts rubbish in the bin, helps put the shopping away – he will make somebody a wonderful husband one day! A few weeks ago the day finally arrived when he wanted his nails painting just like Mummy, and of course I obliged; I see no problem with it and love the fact he wants to embrace it!
I posted a few weeks ago about the Parenting Pitstop sessions we have started attending to try and deal with his behaviour which I regularly mention. We’re only a few sessions in but already we are starting to see changes, and his behaviour towards his brother is improving too – though that might have something to do with the fact that N is starting to ‘get his own back’ so to speak, so now I have to play referee for both of them!
We haven’t had much progress with toilet/potty training but we are getting there. He still wees on the potty and at nursery he has been doing them on the toilet, but still no sign of doing a poo. I’m hoping we can crack it over the summer though I’m starting to have doubts now, but I’m not pushing him.
We are finally starting to see some progress with his food issues though and he is beginning to try new foods and spit them out rather than just plainly refusing them. At one mealtime alone he ate new potatoes (he would only eat chips and mashed potato before) and carrots! Though they were chopped slightly different to usual so maybe he thought they were something else; he’s still eating the potatoes though!
Books – Peppa Pig magazine!