Coming from a three year old

A while ago there was a ‘thing’ going around on social media with questions to ask your children; Vicky from Being Tilly’s Mummy guest posted hers whilst I was away on holiday, you might have read it!

I thought it would be fun to ask J (for both Mummy & Daddy), though he did seem to have a reoccurring theme – the boy is obsessed with that word! I think he was just being a bit silly really…but it still makes me chuckle!

Questions about Mummy

1. What is something mum always says to you? – Poo
2. What makes you happy? – Poo make me happy

3. How does mum make you laugh? – Haha like that
4. What makes mum sad? – Waaaaaaaaah
5. What was mum like as a child? – I can’t talk with my mouth full
6. How old is mum ? – 4
7. How tall is mum? – Bigger and bigger and bigger and bigger
8. What is mums favourite thing to do? – Poo
9. What does mum do when you’re not around? – Poo
10. What is your mum really good at? – Poo
11. What is mum not really good at? – Poo
12. What does your mum do for a job? – Poo
13. What is your mums favourite food? – Poo
14. What makes you proud of your mum? – Poo
15. What do you and your mum do together? – Poo
16. How are you and your mum.the same? – Poo
17. How are you and your mum different? – Poo
18. How do you know mum loves you? – Poo
19. What does mum like most about dad? – Poo
20. Where’s mum favourite place to go? – Poo
21. How old was mum when you were born? – 5

Questions about Daddy
1. What is something dad always says to you? – Four five
2. What makes you happy? – The hole
3. How does dad make you laugh? – Don’t fall down there
4. What makes dad sad? – Waaaaaaaaah
5. What was dad like as a child? – Waaaaaaaaaah
6. How old is dad? – 9
7. How tall is dad? – Big and small
8. What is dads favourite thing to do? – Doing something at work
9. What does dad do when you’re not around? – Go shopping
10. What is your dad really good at? – Grandad
11. What is dad not really good at? – Grandad
12. What does your dad do for a job? – He’s off Grandad poo
13. What is your dads favourite food? – Poo
14. What makes you proud of your dad? – Wobble wobble wobble wobble
15. What do you and your dad do together? – Poo wobble
16. How are you and your dad the same? – You two are swimming
17. How are you and your dad different? – Because we can’t not the same
18. How do you know dad loves you? – Because he want to
19. What does dad like most about mum? – Happy
20. Where’s dad favourite place to go? – Important
21. How old was dad when you were born? – 3

So yes, some rather random answers there! Maybe we will try again next year?

Did you do this with your children?

Parenting Pitstop – trying to deal with J’s challenging behaviour

You may have read my previous posts about J’s challenging behaviour and I have been at my wits end for months, fast running out of ideas on how to deal with it. I’ve spoken with nursery, I’ve spoken with the health visitor, I’ve spoken with one of my friends who worked in a nursery for a long time; I’ve consulted the internet, blogs, my peers, but nothing seems to change. So either this is just instilled into him or I am just a rubbish mother!

Anyway, a few weeks ago I had quite a breakdown with his behaviour. I was already feeling pretty rubbish in general and he just pushed me over the edge. We had been at our usual Tuesday play group (run by the friend mentioned above) and he had been defiant all morning, then he pushed another child who was just minding his own. I just completely lost myself then and we left with me in tears and having to call my brother-in-law for help with the boys as I was breaking down. My friend came round later that afternoon and mentioned a ‘Parenting Pistop’ run by the local Education Preparation Unit. I thought it sounded worth a try so she made a referral for us.

Last week we went to see the ladies who run it and to sign up for it if we were interested. We were told that it will only be a small group – six parents and children – so we can get the most out of it. The way it works is that the session is an hour and half long and us parents spend 20 minutes playing with our children and getting them settled in, in the play room – it’s a Sure Start centre so lots of activities – then we go off (while the children are supervised by one of the ladies) and have a discussion about our difficulties and methods of dealing with behaviour and the such. Both hubby & I can attend but it really depends on whether he can get the time off work, but we signed up anyway as I can make the sessions.

Mine & J’s first session is this afternoon, for a taster session. It will be good to have some time just the two of us too, as I know he needs more of it but it’s difficult when hubby works long hours and I’m home with both of them every day and N rarely naps. I will update you on how we get on – hopefully we will get somewhere this time.

Little man J at 3 years 1 month old

It wasn’t that long ago when I posted J’s last update, but it’s only been just over a week since he turned 3 years 1 month and I’m trying to get these updates posted sooner – maybe I’ll have a bit more consistency now!

He is definitely outgrowing the toddler stage now and turning into a proper little boy – I can’t get my head around the fact he’ll be going to school next year. He is fast becoming the man of the house – he wants to do everything that we do and has an almighty strop if he can’t. His new favourite activity is washing up – I’ve never seen someone get so upset over the fact that they can’t do it! I do usually let him if he asks but if it’s already being done and I’m nearly finished, well, he goes into meltdown. At this stage he likes to tell us repeatedly “I’m crying” even though we can definitely hear him! He is getting better at dressing himself, and he’s also started choosing his own outfits – we have some really random ones!

I mentioned last time that he had done his first wee on the potty. Since then he has done a few more but nothing consistent; I think we really need to knuckle down with it as he’s obviously ready because he asks to go on it, just not all of the time. He has done a wee on the toilet too, when he went with Grandad, but doesn’t really show any other interest in it. Nanna has bought him some Minion pants for when he does a poo on the potty but even that hasn’t encouraged him!

I love that I can now have a proper full blown conversation with him. I do have to correct some of his sentences sometimes though, for example he will still say “Me can do it” instead of “I” but he is getting there. He loves singing at the minute too; nursery rhymes, TV tunes, and he loves bopping along to the Kaiser Chiefs in the car (Mummy adores Ricky Wilson…). Though instead of ‘home’, sometimes he says ‘homo’ – we always correct him, bless him!

We are still having pretty much the same meal time issues. The only meal of the day where he has a variety is breakfast – he will eat almost anything then, pretty much the same thing every day for lunch, and we have major issues at tea time. He eats so well at nursery though, so it’s frustrating. Although he has started eating a lot more fruit; when I make a fruit salad the boys always share it with me and J eats everything that’s in it, where he only used to eat bananas & blueberries before. So I guess we are seeing a change, slowly but surely.

Current favourites
Food – Grapes
Drink – ‘Minion juice’ (orange or blackcurrant squash/happy minion or scary minion!)
TV – Blaze & The Monster Machines
Movies – Hop
Toys – Wooden tea set
Books – The Gruffalo, Bedtime Bear story set