20 weeks

So the following video has absolutely nothing to do with pregnancy, but like me, it says “Ohh We’re half way there, Woah Livin’ on a prayer”! And I thought I would give you something to listen to! 

Yep, that’s us, half way through the pregnancy already! Where has the time gone?! Before we know it Christmas will be out of the way and Baby G will soon be arriving! 

This week I think my bump has been slowly expanding, and my boobs, have had to buy more bras for the second time, have gone up two cup sizes now! Not that husband minds of course… Have also bought some nice snuggly jumpers for the winter, went maternity clothes shopping but there’s nothing that I really like in the shops around here! I will leave that there as I will write about clothes in a future post. 

At the beginning of the week I slipped in the bath, nothing major, I just hurt under my armpit where I caught it on the side of the bath, ouch. I’ve been ever so clumsy lately, in the past 2-3 weeks I have cut myself (with a bread knife!) finger is still healing, nearly there now), burned myself twice, fell up the stairs twice, and then the bath incident! As well as at about 7 weeks when I slipped on the kitchen floor but managed to catch myself before I fell completely! (Clumsy episodes since being pregnant #’s 1-7)

Have also had a couple of strange dreams this week! I think the rude ones that I’ve been told all about have started! On Thursday, I dreamed that Jenson Button (British Formula 1 driver who I’m known to have a soft spot for, *blush*) was fondling my boobs! Oh my word! And then on Friday night, I dreamed I was on the train to visit my dear friend Kylie of Not Even A Bag Of Sugar fame. She was cooking enchiladas ready for my arrival, only she had told me to pop to the shop and buy some nachos! Then the train went through a tunnel, and on the other side was some land that was like a cross between Labyrinth and Narnia, complete with Hoggle! Totally & utterly random!

What strange pregnancy dreams have you encountered?

Weight in pregnancy (and before)

Managing weight in pregnancy is easy for some women, but difficult for others. I guess it’s easy to rapidly gain weight when you are pregnant without really noticing, especially if you live by the old saying “I’m eating for two!”. The truth is, you really don’t need to eat for two, not until your third trimester, when even then you only really need an extra 200-ish calories. The NHS says most pregnant women gain between 22-28lbs, though of course it varies greatly depending on your weight beforehand. 

Before I fell pregnant I was already managing my weight, so it has been easier for me I guess than if I was still hugely overweight. This is me before I decided to change my life for the better and for the future! I was at least 204lbs (14st 8lbs) here, which at my height of a measly 5’1″ is very obese! 

Wanting to try for a baby is one of the main reasons I decided to lose weight. My health was awful, I used to get out of breath even walking up the stairs, finding clothes that fit and looked nice was a nightmare, I was just purely lazy and greedy. I wanted a better life for me, my husband and future children. Not to be able to not be active with them; not to become ill and they lose me early in life. I know this could happen anyway due to unforeseen circumstances but we all know that extra weight carries a lot of health risks. I knew it would take an age to conceive, I do believe my weight played a huge factor in the reason why it did, but we now know that wasn’t the only reason in the end.

This is the most recent pic of me a month before I got my BFP, I was around 155lbs (11st 1lb) here, though I had lost another 3lbs by the time I had my BFP. I was then in the ‘overweight’ category. Ideally I would have been in the ‘healthy’ category beforehand, in fact I was expecting to be at the rate we were going! (Though the BMI guidelines shouldn’t be taken at face value, everybody is different)

Up to 19 weeks pregnant I have gained 9.6 lbs. 

If you are going to try for a baby and you are obese or overweight, I am sure the majority of people would advise to try and lose weight beforehand. Number 1, it will help in your TTC journey, and number 2, it will stand you in good stead for when you are pregnant and have given birth. Although, I do know of overweight people who have gone on to conceive easily and have a healthy uneventful pregnancy. 

At the time I decided to lose weight, I found this website (MFP). I truly believe I wouldn’t have got where I did without my friends on there and their support and encouragement. Now I am pregnant, I still use it occasionally, although I admit I have not been the best in logging my calories, and exercising…

In my first trimester, I had no sickness but I found it incredibly difficult to eat a lot. I didn’t lose my appetite as such, I just couldn’t fit much in! Obviously this will not happen to everyone, but then again we don’t all end up with morning sickness to make us lose our appetite and weight either! So I gained around 6lbs in my first trimester. Hardly any of this would have been baby, some may have been extra water, but I think the majority is the fact that I carried out hardly any exercise at all (maybe a bit of walking, but that’s it), so what I did eat had nowhere to go. I have not really changed my new eating habits though that I gained from MFP, I still have my 3 meals a day, granted now they are even smaller than my smaller portions from before! When I snack, I snack on fruit and healthy snacks. I drink my water – in fact, I used to be terrible for it before, but now I find it much easier as I’m always thirsty! I have the odd bar of chocolate and my weakness is crisps, but I still only eat one packet a day, if that. My craving though has been peanut butter, I have been eating it by the jar….

Up until recently I have found the weight gain quite difficult to deal with in my head. One of my friends said to me, it’s probably because I lost so much weight before, and now I’m gaining it again, it’s strange. Now I’m starting to deal with the fact it’s for a totally different and much better reason…

My tips

  • If you are overweight or obese before TTC, try to lose some weight beforehand. Also, if you are at an unhealthy weight, try and gain a little
  • Make sure you eat your 3 meals a day, if you can, or more smaller meals if you can’t stomach much
  • Eat healthy snacks and cut down on salt
  • Drink plenty of fluids, this will also help with headaches
  • Exercise. Even walking for 30 minutes a day is a help. Find exercise friendly classes in your area, such as pregnancy yoga and aquanatal
  • Try not to weigh yourself so often! 
(I need to take some of my own advice regarding exercise and weighing myself!)

P.S. Sorry I’ve rambled on, it’s one of the subjects I have a lot to say on! 

For more info on weight in pregnancy, see the section on the NHS website here

19 weeks (and an emotional wreck)

Yep, 19 weeks already! Still feels like only yesterday when I got my BFP! We’re nearly half way there, and I still can’t believe it. Though we have to wait an extra week to see our baby, at 21+1, which kinda sucks, but will make it all the more special. Scan is 2 weeks today on the 31st, it’s an early morning one, which means I’ll be peeing all day afterwards! But we’ll finally know the gender of our precious baby (well, if he/she lets us!). 

Yesterday I was a bit of an emotional wreck if I’m honest. Firstly, I think I’m back at that point from the first trimester when I am exhausted, yawning, and want to go back to bed as soon as I wake up – baby must be growing a lot. But, this also means that I’m mardy and irritable to go with it! Poor hubby! It didn’t help yesterday that I had a headache that just wouldn’t go away. (Nope, not the husband this time!).

I was cooking dinner, and that’s when it all started… I threw an absolute wobbler because my chicken wasn’t cooked properly, I started shouting at hubby, and partly blamed him (not his fault at all, he was busy upstairs!), and then I was in floods of tears for the next 20 minutes! I eventually calmed down whilst hubby sorted everything out, well by then after the crying fit I was even more shattered. 

Dinner eaten, couple of hours after I decided I wanted chocolate (oops!)… I remembered I had some mini eggs which I bought when they were selling them off after Easter. Well, I thought I did… They were at the top of the cupboard, which I can’t reach, so asked hubby to find them. He spent 5 minutes looking for them, telling me they weren’t there, me insisting they were, and then, he finally owned up, he’d eaten them! Cue another crying  and shouting session. Oh dear, poor hubby again! 

For the third time, was at bedtime! As tired as I was, I just couldn’t get settled and sleep. Not helped by hubby’s snoring and loud breathing, every single night it happens, so annoying. So then I threw another wobbler at him and ventured downstairs to read! I eventually went back upstairs, snuggled in bed and read a little more, no idea what time I got to sleep in the end…

Wave Of Light – Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day (sensitive)

Today (October 15th) is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day. A day to remember those who have lost babies before term, at birth, or in infancy, and the little angels flying high in the sky. 

Before we started out TTC, if I’m honest, I wasn’t really that aware of those around me who had lost babies, maybe it’s because it’s a taboo subject which people don’t talk about very often. It was only when I started posting in the conception & fertility board of the forum I was a member of at the time, that it made me realise it was something that happens everyday, to people from all walks of life. It is totally heartbreaking for the people involved, and even if you don’t know them personally and only speak to them virtually, it still affects you so much when you hear their stories. 

Of course we don’t need a ‘special day’ to remember, we should remember and think about them every day, but today is the day when there will be a Wave Of Light across the world. At 7pm GMT I will be lighting my candles to remember and support. 

Down’s syndrome screening tests

Just before we went on holiday we received a letter with the results of our Down’s syndrome screening test – 1:15,000 – meaning we don’t need to have any further tests! This is obviously good news for us (not that we wouldn’t love our baby just as much if he/she was born with Down’s…), but for some parents it may not be such good news, or hard to deal with.

We actually had to just have a blood test, as at our 12 week scan Baby G wouldn’t stay still and wasn’t in the right position for the sonographer to take measurements! 

The nuchal translucency (NT) scan is a straightforward test to assess whether your baby is likely to have Down’s syndrome, it isn’t a diagnostic test. The NT scan is carried out by taking your baby’s neck fluid measurements, usually at your 12 week scan. It is best carried out between 11 weeks and 13 weeks & 6 days of pregnancy. If your results come back as high risk then you can decide whether you wish to have a diagnostic test carried out. A diagnostic test such as chorionic villus sampling (CVS) or an amniocentesis can give a definite diagnosis, but it also carries a small risk of miscarriage.

It is worth noting that it is not a requirement for you to have the NT scan, it is a personal decision. Likewise, once your NT results are back, if they are high risk, you do not have to have a diagnostic test.

You can find more information on Down’s syndrome screening tests here and here.